Nearly three-quarters of caregivers use digital media to give their child a moment to themselves. Two-thirds do this so they can do something themselves or have a moment of peace. One in ten finds it difficult to stick to or explain agreements. A quarter struggles with setting a good example themselves.
According to Rebecca Wald of the Netherlands Youth Institute, the growing number of devices is particularly striking in the study. “We have never seen so many screens in the home. Children are also increasingly watching them while on the go. This leads to more screen time, making it more difficult for parents to keep track.”
Thinking of alternatives
As a professional, for example in education, you can advise parents who struggle with this to start with themselves, says Wald. “Ask yourself: when do I use technology? Is it out of habit or because I need to do something myself? Do I use a screen to keep my child occupied or to do something together? If you do this, you can also think about what alternative you could offer.”
“There are often plenty of alternatives, but they require more planning. That conflicts with the convenience of a smartphone. Changing routines takes time, and that is normal. Take small steps and see what your child can handle. For example, cook together at home. Or mention what you see through the window while waiting somewhere. Make use of what is possible in your surroundings.”
Don't stress about the guideline
Wald also advises professionals to make it clear to parents that they do not need to stress about screen-time guidelines. “It is difficult to follow them exactly all the time. They are not hard limits. Watching for a little longer is not immediately harmful. It depends on what you are doing. Perhaps you are watching a beautiful film together that lasts a little longer, or playing a new game. See the guideline as a tool, not a strict rule. It is not a disaster if the limit is exceeded once in a while.”